I Am Now 34....

[Jason Carson]

> On 08/15/2010 02:18 PM, Jason Carson wrote:
>> What may make you feel better is reading up why NOT to get married.
>> There
>> are tons of horror stories on the internet by men that got royally
>> screwed
>> because they got married and had kids and then got divorced.
>
> That is because disaffected men are more likely to write about their
> experiences with marriage than happy men.

Well the according to the Department of Justice, Child Support Initiative,
Evaluation Report, August 1997, divorce rate in Canada is about 48%. Then
take into account that of the roughly half of marriages that stay together
its possible that stuff happens in those marriages (Weight gain, less sex,
compromising, etc). See this article as an example...

http://ca.askmen.com/top_10/dating/top-10-reasons-not-to-get-married.html

> Feeling happier because of
> those "tons of horror stories" isn't a healthy or good response. If
> you're going to take comfort from how random other strangers feel, why
> not take comfort that many men are in stable, happy relationships and
> thoroughly enjoy their roles as husband, father, son, brother,
> son-in-law, brother-in-law, and friend?

I guess I can agree with your there but the reality is many marriages are
not all that great. Some marriages of the half that stay together may stay
together just for the kids or for financial reasons. Just something for
Michael to think about, that is all. From what I have read it seems that
happy healthy marriages are in the minority.

> You attract and become what you think about. If your thoughts are, "Many
> marriages end in divorce and misery.", that's hardly a good starting
> place.

I doubt all of the marriages that end it divorce started of with negative
thoughts, both partners probably had good intentions. The marriages just
didn't work, that's reality. Just something to ponder before Michael takes
the plunge. Although I guess I am getting ahead of myself, he is just
looking for a date.

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