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<br><br>> Date: Wed, 11 Aug 2010 14:16:50 -0400<br>> Subject: Re: [TLUG]: I Am Now 34....<br>> From: colin.mc151-Re5JQEeQqe8AvxtiuMwx3w@public.gmane.org<br>> To: tlug-lxSQFCZeNF4@public.gmane.org<br>> <br>> On Wed, Aug 11, 2010 at 12:15 AM, Michael Lauzon <mlauzon-Re5JQEeQqe8AvxtiuMwx3w@public.gmane.org> wrote:<br>> > Well, I am now 34 years old, still single after 24 years of trying to<br>> > get a first date, and have not received a birthday present in 20<br>> > years; so not a happy birthday like usual....<br>> <br>> Sigh...<br><br>> Let me also suggest that you start connecting with some non-geeks...<br>> Some of the GTALug folks are involved in the local amateur theater<br>> scene, others are in "mainstream" religious communities, others<br>> gourmet food / beer / wine, among other things. It can be a bit hard<br>> to expand beyond just the geek community, but it does help keep things<br>> in perspective.<br>> <br>> <br>> Colin.<br>> <br><br>Throughout most of my teens, I seldom went out on what we consider a
traditional date. Instead, I frequently went out with a group of people. Sometimes with a small group of family friends, sometimes with large groups of friends mixed in with acquaintances and even people I didn't know. Sometimes it was a barrel of laughs, sometimes it was just OK. But I always went along. Typically, these friends were of mixed gender, but no-one considered these outings to be dates.<br><br>Something interesting happened. Quite a large number of these friends later in life married from within the group or extended group. Life is funny that way, sometimes things just happen. I married outside of the group, but I think that's OK too.<br><br>I occasionally think back at how great those times were - no pressures for dates, no expectations, just going out for plain fun.<br><br>I don't think it's too late to do what Colin is suggesting above, but do it for fun and without expectations. Will it result in birthday presents and first dates? I haven't any idea, don't have the proper credentials for that prediction, but you're likely to have fun.<br><br>One more thing... I wouldn't advertise to friends that you've never had a date and have unhappy birthdays. Just my opinion.<br><br>"Well, I am now 34 years old, still single after 24 years of trying to get a first date"<br>By the way, what would you have done if you had gotten that date at 10 yrs old :-)? <br><br>John.<br> </body>
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